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Sanity saving tips for moms


·      Don’t expect your baby to be doing what the experts or the baby books say she should be doing.

·      Examples of comments to ignore: “he should be sleeping through the night by now” and “she doesn’t eat enough”.

·      Don’t expect your baby to play by the rules. Babies have their own ideas and these are often different to the ideas of their parents.

·      Don’t judge or criticize your own mothering. Just do the best you can.

·      The perfect mom does not exist. Your baby doesn’t need you to be perfect. He only needs you to be good enough. You are allowed to fail him sometimes.

·      It is acceptable and even normal sometimes to experience feelings of anger, resentment and even hatred towards your baby.

·      Negative feelings towards your baby are fine as long as you don’t act out on them, that is, as long as you don’t hurt your baby or abandon him.

·      Hand your baby over to someone you trust if you are feeling as though you are reaching your limit.

·      Allow yourself some time away from your baby, as long as he is left in the care of a responsible, loving adult.

·      New moms are almost always sleep deprived and this can be psychologically and physically harmful. Do everything you can to get enough rest and sleep.

·      Take at least 3 months maternity leave. Take longer if possible.

·      Spend time with and make friends with other moms who have babies of a similar age to yours. Take support from them, but if it feels competitive, walk away and find new friends.

·      Get as much support as you can from friends and family. Use whatever support is offered to you.

·      Share your experience of being a mom with your partner. Share the parenting load with him as much as possible. Encourage him to be involved.

·      If you are single, you need extra support from friends and family.

·      See a psychotherapist or a 'Babies in Mind' practitioner if you are struggling emotionally with yourself and/or your baby during this time.

·      Be aware of the symptoms of postnatal depression and seek treatment without delay if you suspect you may be depressed.

·      Make an appointment with a psychotherapist or a 'Babies in Mind' practitioner if you are experiencing high levels of anxiety.



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